Do you ever get a pit in your stomach and realize the root cause of the pain is caring about:
- What others think?
- How they will react?
- Why certain people don’t appreciate us when we give so much?
- Someone being upset with us?
Why do we care so darn much and drive ourselves crazy because people don’t react the RIGHT WAY… or in other words, like WE would react???!!
I know I do!
Imagine for a moment how it would feel to be 100% you. Authentically you with no apologies. The real deal.
What words come to mind? Scary? Free? Can’t even imagine it?
I believe when we get to a place where we’re able to be totally cool with who we are, we are then able to be vulnerable, speak our truth, and be okay with reactions from others that don’t feel too hot.
It’s like giving someone a gift. When they don’t write a thank you note do we fly off the handle? Call everyone and go off on how ungrateful this person is and dig deep into WHY they are not showing appreciation and giving us what we want? Yes, a thank-you note would be wonderful but it’s not going to throw us off the rails.
It’s the same when we take the chance on giving someone a chance, being vulnerable, and letting others see us… the real us. THOSE ARE GIFTS AS WELL.
If they reject us, walk away, or react in any way that feels “wrong” why do we expend so much energy on figuring out WHY?
I have two words that might help… SO WHAT.
Imagine existing in a way that you are only attached to the joy that comes from giving freely and that the recipient’s reaction is irrelevant to the experience.
I’ll give it a try too