Dear Darling,
May I ask you a question?
How do you define beauty?
I love the word and everything it embodies. In fact, I recently took one of those quaint little assessments and I must share that the word beauty is indeed one of my top ten personal values.
There once was a day when I would be too shy to admit this for fear that one might peg me as shallow or superficial.
Yet here is what is exquisite about beauty… it is everywhere. Seen and unseen.
The word “beauty” is dear to me because it represents something deeper, something special and something sacred we all have within us.
A beautiful moment is when you stop and ask yourself “is this true? necessary and kind?”
A beautiful person is someone who you feel safe around.
A beautiful living space for me evokes feelings of coziness and inspiration.
So I’d love to share with you my 3 favorite and simple ways to embody beauty in your daily experience…
Quiet confidence – My Mum and I were recently sharing thoughts about an old friend and how we loved her gentle and regal way. She had this complete self-possession and while she would not be considered “beautiful” in the Hollywood sense, to me she was one of the most attractive women I knew. Her energy exuded confidence, style, grace and kindness. She was someone who when she spoke, people listened. Because of that as a young girl I was mesmerized by her beauty. The way she wore her hair, her glasses, her wardrobe… her involvement in the community… her creativity… her generosity. It’s amazing how quickly someone can become stunning when their spirit and energy shine through.
Be the Queen – I remember hearing a story about the Queen hosting guests and one of them drinking the soup by lifting the bowl to their lips versus using the spoon. Rather than laugh, shame, or even shake her head, the Queen did the most beautiful thing. She mimicked the guests actions. Why? To make him feel comfortable. The most beautiful people are those who don’t have the deep need to be “right” nor do they find it exciting to feel above anyone in the social, spiritual, or personal growth areas. The next time you want to step in and correct someone, perhaps it could be a fabulous opportunity to zip your lips and do as the Queen does.
- Loving words and deep listening – Who in your life listens to you? Really listens. Eye to eye, no phone checking or multi tasking? If you are having a difficult time thinking of someone you are not alone. Today you can become so lovely to others by simply listening in an intentional way and choosing loving and kind words when it’s your turn to talk. Simply by communicating in a more tender and gentle manner, you have the power to completely shift a conversation or situation that could turn to the negative slant. As human beings, our egos get in the way of this so if you can master the art of loving language and intentional listening, you will stand out in a crowd no doubt!
So there you go. Three surefire ways to make you more attractive and lovely… and who doesn’t want more of that?
With love,
EE