If you’re like me, you are…dare I say… impulsive. And with that quality comes a stack of half-read books on your tablet and nightstand.
I used to scold myself for buying so many books without finishing them but lately I’ve been experimenting with flipping my mindset from negative to positive and I must say it elevates your joy in a jiffy!
In fact, if I wasn’t an impulsive book buy I never would have come across the most amazing book that is so simple and within its pages holds the key to feeling better. This book offered me an effective strategy I use on a daily basis and is setting me free from worry, control, jealousy, and rumination.
The book is called “Loving What Is” by Byron Katie. This may sound melodramatic… but it literally changed my life!
Curious? Read on….
So the premise around the book is whenever you are emotionally suffering (hello! who isn’t these days??) the question to ask and one which will alleviate that suffering is…
Whose business am I in?
Because if you are in God’s business worrying about the weather or in your friend’s business trying to control their reaction or choice, my dear you are literally up in someone else’s business and it is time to get out!
Why oh why do we love being in everyone’s business? Probably because it’s easier to chat about the mishaps of others rather than our own.
Here are a few ways I am practicing staying in my own bubble, business, and lane….
My niece leaves her little footie socks in random areas of her room. I am literally perplexed by this but I take a deep breath and practice. I so want to pick them up or tell her to put those little buggers in their proper place… the laundry bin she was so excited to buy at The Container Store! But Miss Byron rings in my ear “Stay in your own business darling!” … so I do the next best things and shut her door. Voila! Problem solved!
My friend refuses to get the vaccine and goes on and on about the theories she believes in. That is HER business and it’s MY business to respect her… and stay in my own business!!!
My other friend is the opposite of mentioned friend above. My solution? Rinse and repeat with my reaction.
My friend who I miss terribly and am waiting with bated breath to meet for coffee and do some shopping is simply very busy with work, life, and raising her child. How do I respect her business and stay in mine? Send her good energy and love and redirect my attention to inviting another friend instead.
The gist of it is, quit fighting with reality. Resist the urge to push and manipulate the weather, taxes, or other people.
A simple trick? Yes.
Easy to implement? Well… it takes time!
But I have faith in you dear friend! You have the power to create more joy, ease, and contentment in your life with this one strategy. Go forth and practice 🙂
May you take on the day and practice remaining in the space of you and let others do the same for themselves. Joy for both of you awaits just around the corner.