“What You Think of Me is None of My Business.”
~T. Cole-Whittaker
Do you find yourself wrapped up in other peoples’ worlds, relationships, choices, and opinions? Are you putting more focus on their lives than your own? If so, why is that? Maybe it’s an escape from your own reality at the moment.
A good friend of mine recently had a revelation about how she was showing up in her marriage. Rather than acknowledging how she might be contributing to the conflict, she chose instead to entirely focus on his issues. She chose to constantly focus on what he had done wrong, talk about what he needed to do, the steps he needed to take, the changes he needed to make… they all made sense… but she left herself out of the equation.
When she began to “mind her own business,” (i.e. let him own what he owned, let him do the work he needed to do) something changed. She began to see things from a different perspective, relax a bit, and started experiencing more moments of happiness. That is what set the stage for healing.
What we focus our thoughts on becomes reality. If we want to keep beating the same drum, then we should know what to expect. But if, by chance, we make a subtle shift in giving others a break by taking the focus away from them and instead onto ourselves and how we might become the best versions of OURSELVES… that’s when things figure themselves out without much stress or angst.
Wishes to you for a peaceful day!
Meg
