“Self-worth comes from one thing – thinking that you are worthy.”
Without a solid “knowing” of our own self worth, it’s easy to allow situations into our lives where the outcome is a feeling of being taken advantage of. When we don’t think, believe, feel, and most importantly conduct ourselves in a manner which evokes an understanding of self worth, we open the door wide open for “takers” to pull more from us than is fair.
A perfect example is a client who is small business owner. She is talented, smart, and knows her stuff…. Yet she struggled to bring on new clients. She also was racked with guilt about aligning her fees with the industry standard. Once she was able to dig deep on WHY she was terrified of charging more and WHY she was “okay” with giving her precious time away for free, she was able to stand up for herself from a place of strength. She no longer gave people the benefit of the doubt they would do the right thing, or that “everything would come out in the wash.” As her self worth increased, so did her rates… and you guessed it, her quantity of clients did as well. Ironically, people didn’t even blink at what she charged.
If you struggle with self worth in your relationships, self-image, or your career, start asking yourself why. Uncovering the root causes of these destructive thought patterns is key in releasing what isn’t working and bringing forth situations which do. No one is going to step up for you or save the spot. It’s up to you and you alone to claim your seat believing you deserve it.