Whether you are meeting the new in- laws, have a big interview, or presenting to your top prospects, here are a few tips to get you in gear:
1. Visualize – We all visualize either knowingly or unknowingly. From the moment we wake up thinking about our day to when we go to bed thinking what needs to happen tomorrow. Whether we know it or not, what we picture in our heads regarding how things will go is a big factor in, well, how things go!
Psychology Today says, “In some cases, research has revealed that mental practices are almost as effective as true physical practice, and that doing both is more effective than either alone… the brain is getting trained for actual performance during visualization”.
The cool thing is you can really amp up the process and get a real kick back in terms of results when you harness the power we all have to set the tone through mapping it out through our minds. Basically you DOUBLE your POWER when you visualize and bring your best self to the actual situation.
Let’s say you have an interview. Take 10 minutes that morning to literally go through what you will be wearing, your drive to the meeting, how you will look walking in to the room, the positive greeting the two of you will share, the smile on your face, the confidence you exude, the questions you clearly answer, and the look on the face of your interviewer as you leave the meeting. Imagine it… but most importantly feel and believe it!
2. Be Real – As Oscar Wilde said, “Be yourself. Everyone else is taken.” People can sense fakeness a mile away. Be vulnerable. Be honest. If you don’t know the answer to the question, don’t get the punch line to the joke, or really have no clue what prosecco is… don’t fake it! Authenticity is what will endear you to people and create trust.
3. Listen- A good friend of mine is adored by everyone…funny thing is, she doesn’t do much talking in social or business situations. She listens. She asks powerful questions. The best part is, when she has something to say, people listen to HER!
4. “I’ve got my eye on you”- Resist the urge to do what I call the “eye grazing” over the shoulder of the person you are speaking with to see if there is someone more important in the room. Trust me, the person you are speaking with sees it and is turned off. Be WITH the person in front of you. Giving them 100% of your attention is the best gift you can give them.
Good luck… and the bonus tip…remember to check your teeth for spinach!
All my best,