Do you feel emotions deeply?
Do you tend to wear your heart on your sleeve?
Do people accuse you of being “too sensitive”?
Do busy places, packed schedules, and loud noises drain you?
Do you feel you are a people pleaser?
Do you sense others needs and pain as if they were your own?
If so, how are you managing all of the energy coming towards you on a daily basis?
Perhaps you default to the late night snacking, happy hours, or zone out on Netflix every night? Escaping the overwhelm is enticing when you are a deep feeler.
For years I didn’t understand how the lack of boundaries with my time and energy was stifling my creativity, contentment, and happiness.
But along came Elegant Evelyn.
If you’ve read my blogs you know that I have two sides… Frantic Franny and EE.
When my house is a mess, my sleep is below par, I haven’t worked out in weeks, I don’t have anything to wear that fits or is clean, the fridge isn’t stocked with the food that works for me, and my schedule is packed… Frantic Franny rises from the depths like a phoenix taking over my reactions, choices, and life.
On the other hand, when I have structure in my schedule, green juice ready to go, a good sweat a few times a week, and an organized closet not to mention a good night’s sleep… Elegant Evelyn reigns.
The thing is, we all have the choice to cultivate the parts that elevate us or the parts that drain us. It’s simply a decision which involves what I like to call “pre-work”.
In fact, it’s your responsibility to create an environment that supports your tranquility because without it, as an empath or highly sensitive person, life becomes chaotic which does you nor anyone else any good.
So here are 3 easy ideas to become more of an “elegant empath” vs. your own version of Frantic Franny:
1. Choose your “BE” words. Pick three adjectives that describe your desired “personal brand”. Next, define what they mean to you. Post those words where you will see them every day. Step into the energy of those words when triggered. Practice and pretty soon without warning, you ARE those words.
2. Treat yourself with the utmost respect. This means wear the nice clothes, use the expensive perfume, bring out the nice dishes for everyday, delight in simple pleasures, give yourself enough time in your schedule so you aren’t rushed or late. All of this promotes this polished and easeful way of living.
3. Speak softly and walk lightly. Pay attention to the words and tone you use towards others and yourself. The thoughts in your head, the words out of your mouth… they all matter. Did you know your posture can elevate or deplete your mood? Walk with grace and pay attention to how that feels.
I share this concept of becoming an “elegant empath” with you because it is by far been the number one strategy that has worked for me in moving away from the habit of wine, overeating, and zoning out too often on things that take me away from joy.
I’d love to hear your feedback on your experiences as an empath or HSP and if this strategy of infusing elegance into your every day resonates with you.
As always, don’t forget to check out the latest episode on the podcast! This week I interviewed a life and love coach and she’s lovely and full of great advice.
See you soon,